All of us grew up with a Disney movie or two, we know most of the stories by heart. We know every struggle of every girl and every happily ever after, from every boy that saved the day. But have we ever stopped to think about how this is shaping our thoughts about love and marriage.
Every movie has a different theme, but all the same lessons, some pretty girl needs some pretty boy to come save the day and fight the fight before they can finally get married and live happily ever after........Well they got it right just in the wrong place. We usually experience the happily ever after before we tie the knot, then after life can give us some ups and some downs, during these times is when some couples have a hard time living the happily ever after.
Divorce rates are on the rise and with more people choosing to walk instead of fight, we are not sitting over the half way marker, that's right more than half of us will walk away.
Well when my children were young I experienced this, life was supposed to be happily ever after,(like the Disney movies promised) and it was instead a sadly forever disaster. I decided to stay and fight inst ed of walk away. I choose to fight the fight.
Just on St. Patrick's day we celebrated 9 years together, we have been married 7 this July, and spring always reminds me of the fight we have gone through to be together, and the fight we will still meet later on in life. It reminds me how lucky I am that we took the steps to try and work together better. Spring always is a time of Love, and for me it is even more because its were are story began. I have decided to do a blog special for spring all about My Disney Effect.
You see years ago when we were first married and felt that we were not making scenes, we stated to read marriage books, and alot of them, well at the same time I was watching alot of Disney movies with my little girls remembering about all the promises Disney gave me. I started to see a pattern in these movies. They all had to go through their battle to gain their happy ever after, but I started to notice that all these movies were great examples of how a couple can go through many different problems in their relationship, but it also showed that there is a way through that battle. I spent several hours at my computer typing my new Disney theory. You see Disney promised a fight then happy ever after, it was just backwards to seem to find that happiness then have some problems.
In honour of spring I am going to spend some time explaining my Disney Effect in hopes that wither your married, single, dating or complicated maybe you will see your problems in a whole new light. Also I haven't done a blog special yet, so here's my chance to ;)
Well my Disney Effect starts were most relationships start. When we all fall in love. When we experience becoming Twitterpated, Now I will turn it over to my friend Owl.
Twitterpated, that's whats happens to us. This is how it starts, we fall head over heels for someone and begin the process of walking on air. My story started very much like Bambi.
Once upon a time on the night before St. Patrick's Day, I ran into a boy I had met before when I was younger, and it hit us, we became twitterpated just in time for spring. From their we were living in a dream world every thing was new and exciting and I never wanted it to end. That's what we do we spend are whole life looking for someone who can make us happy and we can spend the rest of our lives happy with that person. This is how we felt, every day discovering something new about each other. We caught the twitterpated bug so bad that then on Easter we packed our car, only together for 3 weeks and drove all the way out West to start our Happily Ever After. We were so in love and focused on each other and our new dream we decided to just run and not tell anyone. We actually told our roommates we were going to do laundry.
This is how it starts, we find ourselves crazily ever after. We find ourselves doing things we would never do, feeling things we have never felt and before we know it we are long gone down the Twitterpated road. I don't see this as a bad thing, these are the feeling we need to remember and hold onto in our times of struggle. Remembering that Love brought you together, and Life will always try and split you up, life happens, without are love we have nothing. This is one of the special bonds each couples holds. Their is always a beginning to a love story and its always begins with two people becoming Twitterpated.
Tune in Tomorrow for.......... More Disney Effect, we start to look at some of the top 5 relationship problems.
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