Thursday 11 October 2012
All in a Name!
Can picking a name for a boy really be this hard. You see I already have 2 beautiful girls, and when it came to picking their names is was really easy. I just knew the name was the one as soon as I heard it. By the time I was 3 months pregnant with my girls I knew what name they were going to get.
Not this time, I think I have heard every single boy name out there, and nothing, not one single name has caught my attention.
One name has caught the attention of my husband, but I am not really a huge fan of this name. Not to sure how its going to work having us 2 decide on a name, we both have such different styles that we prefer.
So if you are lucky enough to enjoy reading my blog, you are going to be lucky enough to help me out, I am going to list below some styles of names just so I can feel out what the trend of 2012 really is. Leave a comment below to what you think would be trendy. Thanks for reading and sharing.
Here is a little background as well all about us. My husband is Irish, so I like to pick Irish names. We already have 2 girls with rather old fashion name, Allison and Elizabeth, which we have shortened to Alli & Ella.Our last name starts with an R and trying to stay away from R first names.
The Family name, traditionally lots of families will name their sons after names that are in their family. here are ours.
1. William
2. George
3. Phillip
4. Reid
5. John
6. Gordon
7. Duncan
Even though I am staying away from R names here are some I like.
1. Rowan
2. Ryker
3. Ryder
Western names, or cowboy names I seem to be going towards.
1. Hunter
2. Wyatt
3. Colton
4. Austen
5. Mason
Of course can't go without some Irish names in there.
1. Declan
2. Connor
3. Brendan
Biblical names, like how I can short form these names.
1. Matthew-Matt
2. Lucas- Luke
3. Ezekiel- Zeke
Daddy's picks
1. Gregory
2. William
3. George- Geo
4. Hunter
5. Connor
Girl's picks
1. Wyatt
Also feel free to add any names you think of that could fit into my styles.
I still haven't found that name, so you never know I might end up in Love with one that is posted. Thanks for helping.
Wednesday 10 October 2012
To be Thankful or not to be!
With Thanksgiving all wrapped up, and the start of a new week you think it would be a refreshing start. A time to really reflect on what we are truly thankful for. We all sat around the table with friends and family, sharing stories and conversation, we all thought how thankful we are for those very people that sat around the table, but it really does end so very soon.
We would like to think that a part of us takes a little bit of this attitude with us all through out the year, but do we really show it once the holiday is over. We all go back to our busy lives with such busy demands on us, and I believe that yes it is still deep in the back of minds but how are we ever to see it through our daily life stresses.
I myself spent the last 5 min of getting my kids ready for school in a frenzy trying to find something that was put up for safe keeping and was then picked up and lost. We all think, oh no big deal you had to raise your voice and let a child take responsibility for that what she lost. We all go right back to having to raise our voices at our kids, raise our voices at our husbands and raise our voices at our own parents or siblings. But we just spent the weekend being thankful for these very people in our lives.
I think we need to flip it up a bit. Instead of focusing on what we should be thankful for, maybe looking at it in different light would have us maintain a better attitude when it comes down to those boiling points. bare with me here and I hope I haven't lost you.
If we realized the things we are not thankful for, instead of that what we are then maybe we can start the week trying to change that around. I know I sat at the table and thought to myself how blessed I was to have such beautiful and healthy girls, to have a husband who loves us, and a baby boy on the way that has already brought so much joy to our lives. Yet already this morning, I lost that mantra and was more focused on the girls that lost what they needed, a husband who is gone all week and can't help me, and a baby who is still managing to make me sick in the morning and fills me full of crazy hormones. I might of only lost my way for 5 min, but we can never know how that 5 min would effect the others in our lives.
Our children our a blessing, and if they need to learn responsibly then we need to teach then, and be thankful for the chance to do so, If our husbands need some reminders to help out more, then we need to be thankful for the chances to show them how, and if our parents are getting on our nerves we need to be thankful that we still have then with us, and a chance to let them know what we really need from them. There is more to it then to just be thankful for them.
I am not thankful for the way life can go everyday, But I am thankful that I have a God that has his own way of letting me know that if your are un thankful for the way life treat you sometimes, then we can always be thankful for the chance to learn from that and change it into a thankfulness that can last all year long.
So for the rest of week, when you feel your patients slipping or your attitude telling you negative thoughts and leading you to un thankful mind set, just remember there is always a way to use that un thankful attitude to bring back some thankfulness in your life, we are human and meant to learn from our mistakes and grow that much more, that is what to be thankful for.
Wednesday 21 March 2012
The Disney Effect: Issue #2 selling your voice
Disney Effect: Issue #2 selling your voice.
If you are reading this article and haven’t read Issue #1 go back and read in order, or I am afraid you might get totally lost in my ramblings.
For those of you tuning in to hear more of my Disney Effect your in luck. Today I am going to write about the number 1 reason why couples end in break-up.
COMMUNICATION
Communication is said to be one of the top reasons why couples can’t make it to happy ever after. Its hard to make communication work in a relationship when both male and female see communicating in two totally different ways. The story I have chosen to show an example of this is “The Little Mermaid”.
It has a perfect example of what happens when we sell our voice only leaving us unable to communicate.
We as men and woman see communication in two very different ways, men talk on a literal level, where woman communicate on a more relational level.
You see when you break it down communication is made up of 7% of a message in words spoken, 38% is in the voice intonation and 55% is in body language. That makes it together that 93% of a message is in unspoken words. Woman know all about this, we are more able to communicate on a relational level, were most men think literal and pay attention to the 7% of spoken words. The problem here is when a woman tries to communicate and gets a man who answers her with his words but his voice is mono-toned and he body language is watching the T.V, then as woman we think he isn’t even listening to me. Truth is he heard the words you said so he got your message, he gave you an answer back with his words, so as far as your man knows he has received and sent the message back conversations is done. What happens then when you turn it around and have the man send a message? A man asks if it would be a good time to go out with his buddies, woman’s response in her words is “Of course, go have fun!” but that 38% of voice tone is screaming “why can’t you just stay home with me” and her body language is saying “No I don’t think you should”. Then we as woman get so upset when the man then goes out with this friends. Truth is too your man he heard your words say “Of course” he can’t read the rest of the 93% of communication you are sending him.
Now we all the story of poor Ariel, she only lost the 45% of communication and had a hard time trying to get the prince to understand.
This clip says it all, after losing the 7% of spoken words and 38% of her voice tone, she only had a remaining 55% of her communication left. That 55% is all in her body language, which judging by the look on Eric face above, he is struggling to understand her. This happens in our relationships more than we think it does. Yes Eric was able to grasp most of the important stuff that he needed to understand, but do you really think Ariel felt that he understood her in this moment, probably not, she probably was realising if only she had her voice to speak the words, and the tone to go with it, then maybe the prince would understand. In this moment she realised that she should never have gave her voice away. I truly believe that we as woman do in way give up our voice, we do this when we decide to not just tell our man what we want, when we CHOOSE to throw are thoughts and opinions at our men with our tones and our body language.
I know a bit about this, like I said I only learned all about this stuff when I found my relationship slipping away. I did this a lot, I CHOOSE all the time to use my voice and body language to communicate with a man who was only listening to my words, I wasted so much energy trying to get him to just see and hear how I was feeling without ever telling him a word about how I was really feeling. I felt misunderstood and ignored, he felt hopeless and confused. None of our messages were being sent or received properly. This leaves your communication in a mess. It wasn't until understanding how each of us communicated that things began to turn around, I had to learn to use my words, just say what I needed. He had to learn to make an effort to engage with me through a conversation so his body language was communicating with me and not the T.V or shop manual.
Once Ariel got her voice back, and Eric made the effort to communicate to her with her body language they finally understood each other too.
If you are reading this article and haven’t read Issue #1 go back and read in order, or I am afraid you might get totally lost in my ramblings.
For those of you tuning in to hear more of my Disney Effect your in luck. Today I am going to write about the number 1 reason why couples end in break-up.
COMMUNICATION
Communication is said to be one of the top reasons why couples can’t make it to happy ever after. Its hard to make communication work in a relationship when both male and female see communicating in two totally different ways. The story I have chosen to show an example of this is “The Little Mermaid”.
It has a perfect example of what happens when we sell our voice only leaving us unable to communicate.
We as men and woman see communication in two very different ways, men talk on a literal level, where woman communicate on a more relational level.
You see when you break it down communication is made up of 7% of a message in words spoken, 38% is in the voice intonation and 55% is in body language. That makes it together that 93% of a message is in unspoken words. Woman know all about this, we are more able to communicate on a relational level, were most men think literal and pay attention to the 7% of spoken words. The problem here is when a woman tries to communicate and gets a man who answers her with his words but his voice is mono-toned and he body language is watching the T.V, then as woman we think he isn’t even listening to me. Truth is he heard the words you said so he got your message, he gave you an answer back with his words, so as far as your man knows he has received and sent the message back conversations is done. What happens then when you turn it around and have the man send a message? A man asks if it would be a good time to go out with his buddies, woman’s response in her words is “Of course, go have fun!” but that 38% of voice tone is screaming “why can’t you just stay home with me” and her body language is saying “No I don’t think you should”. Then we as woman get so upset when the man then goes out with this friends. Truth is too your man he heard your words say “Of course” he can’t read the rest of the 93% of communication you are sending him.
Now we all the story of poor Ariel, she only lost the 45% of communication and had a hard time trying to get the prince to understand.
This clip says it all, after losing the 7% of spoken words and 38% of her voice tone, she only had a remaining 55% of her communication left. That 55% is all in her body language, which judging by the look on Eric face above, he is struggling to understand her. This happens in our relationships more than we think it does. Yes Eric was able to grasp most of the important stuff that he needed to understand, but do you really think Ariel felt that he understood her in this moment, probably not, she probably was realising if only she had her voice to speak the words, and the tone to go with it, then maybe the prince would understand. In this moment she realised that she should never have gave her voice away. I truly believe that we as woman do in way give up our voice, we do this when we decide to not just tell our man what we want, when we CHOOSE to throw are thoughts and opinions at our men with our tones and our body language.
I know a bit about this, like I said I only learned all about this stuff when I found my relationship slipping away. I did this a lot, I CHOOSE all the time to use my voice and body language to communicate with a man who was only listening to my words, I wasted so much energy trying to get him to just see and hear how I was feeling without ever telling him a word about how I was really feeling. I felt misunderstood and ignored, he felt hopeless and confused. None of our messages were being sent or received properly. This leaves your communication in a mess. It wasn't until understanding how each of us communicated that things began to turn around, I had to learn to use my words, just say what I needed. He had to learn to make an effort to engage with me through a conversation so his body language was communicating with me and not the T.V or shop manual.
Once Ariel got her voice back, and Eric made the effort to communicate to her with her body language they finally understood each other too.
I believe that its not how much or when we do our communicating that messes us up, but its how we are doing are communicating. If both partners in a relationship CHOOSE to try and communicate in a way their partner understands then they both will find themselves enjoying the time they get to communicate with each other, and watch the spark re ignite.
Stayed tuned for more Disney Effect Tomorrow.......
Tuesday 20 March 2012
The Disney Effect: Issue #1 Twitterpated
All of us grew up with a Disney movie or two, we know most of the stories by heart. We know every struggle of every girl and every happily ever after, from every boy that saved the day. But have we ever stopped to think about how this is shaping our thoughts about love and marriage.
Every movie has a different theme, but all the same lessons, some pretty girl needs some pretty boy to come save the day and fight the fight before they can finally get married and live happily ever after........Well they got it right just in the wrong place. We usually experience the happily ever after before we tie the knot, then after life can give us some ups and some downs, during these times is when some couples have a hard time living the happily ever after.
Divorce rates are on the rise and with more people choosing to walk instead of fight, we are not sitting over the half way marker, that's right more than half of us will walk away.
Well when my children were young I experienced this, life was supposed to be happily ever after,(like the Disney movies promised) and it was instead a sadly forever disaster. I decided to stay and fight inst ed of walk away. I choose to fight the fight.
Just on St. Patrick's day we celebrated 9 years together, we have been married 7 this July, and spring always reminds me of the fight we have gone through to be together, and the fight we will still meet later on in life. It reminds me how lucky I am that we took the steps to try and work together better. Spring always is a time of Love, and for me it is even more because its were are story began. I have decided to do a blog special for spring all about My Disney Effect.
You see years ago when we were first married and felt that we were not making scenes, we stated to read marriage books, and alot of them, well at the same time I was watching alot of Disney movies with my little girls remembering about all the promises Disney gave me. I started to see a pattern in these movies. They all had to go through their battle to gain their happy ever after, but I started to notice that all these movies were great examples of how a couple can go through many different problems in their relationship, but it also showed that there is a way through that battle. I spent several hours at my computer typing my new Disney theory. You see Disney promised a fight then happy ever after, it was just backwards to seem to find that happiness then have some problems.
In honour of spring I am going to spend some time explaining my Disney Effect in hopes that wither your married, single, dating or complicated maybe you will see your problems in a whole new light. Also I haven't done a blog special yet, so here's my chance to ;)
Well my Disney Effect starts were most relationships start. When we all fall in love. When we experience becoming Twitterpated, Now I will turn it over to my friend Owl.
Twitterpated, that's whats happens to us. This is how it starts, we fall head over heels for someone and begin the process of walking on air. My story started very much like Bambi.
Once upon a time on the night before St. Patrick's Day, I ran into a boy I had met before when I was younger, and it hit us, we became twitterpated just in time for spring. From their we were living in a dream world every thing was new and exciting and I never wanted it to end. That's what we do we spend are whole life looking for someone who can make us happy and we can spend the rest of our lives happy with that person. This is how we felt, every day discovering something new about each other. We caught the twitterpated bug so bad that then on Easter we packed our car, only together for 3 weeks and drove all the way out West to start our Happily Ever After. We were so in love and focused on each other and our new dream we decided to just run and not tell anyone. We actually told our roommates we were going to do laundry.
This is how it starts, we find ourselves crazily ever after. We find ourselves doing things we would never do, feeling things we have never felt and before we know it we are long gone down the Twitterpated road. I don't see this as a bad thing, these are the feeling we need to remember and hold onto in our times of struggle. Remembering that Love brought you together, and Life will always try and split you up, life happens, without are love we have nothing. This is one of the special bonds each couples holds. Their is always a beginning to a love story and its always begins with two people becoming Twitterpated.
Tune in Tomorrow for.......... More Disney Effect, we start to look at some of the top 5 relationship problems.
Every movie has a different theme, but all the same lessons, some pretty girl needs some pretty boy to come save the day and fight the fight before they can finally get married and live happily ever after........Well they got it right just in the wrong place. We usually experience the happily ever after before we tie the knot, then after life can give us some ups and some downs, during these times is when some couples have a hard time living the happily ever after.
Divorce rates are on the rise and with more people choosing to walk instead of fight, we are not sitting over the half way marker, that's right more than half of us will walk away.
Well when my children were young I experienced this, life was supposed to be happily ever after,(like the Disney movies promised) and it was instead a sadly forever disaster. I decided to stay and fight inst ed of walk away. I choose to fight the fight.
Just on St. Patrick's day we celebrated 9 years together, we have been married 7 this July, and spring always reminds me of the fight we have gone through to be together, and the fight we will still meet later on in life. It reminds me how lucky I am that we took the steps to try and work together better. Spring always is a time of Love, and for me it is even more because its were are story began. I have decided to do a blog special for spring all about My Disney Effect.
You see years ago when we were first married and felt that we were not making scenes, we stated to read marriage books, and alot of them, well at the same time I was watching alot of Disney movies with my little girls remembering about all the promises Disney gave me. I started to see a pattern in these movies. They all had to go through their battle to gain their happy ever after, but I started to notice that all these movies were great examples of how a couple can go through many different problems in their relationship, but it also showed that there is a way through that battle. I spent several hours at my computer typing my new Disney theory. You see Disney promised a fight then happy ever after, it was just backwards to seem to find that happiness then have some problems.
In honour of spring I am going to spend some time explaining my Disney Effect in hopes that wither your married, single, dating or complicated maybe you will see your problems in a whole new light. Also I haven't done a blog special yet, so here's my chance to ;)
Well my Disney Effect starts were most relationships start. When we all fall in love. When we experience becoming Twitterpated, Now I will turn it over to my friend Owl.
Twitterpated, that's whats happens to us. This is how it starts, we fall head over heels for someone and begin the process of walking on air. My story started very much like Bambi.
Once upon a time on the night before St. Patrick's Day, I ran into a boy I had met before when I was younger, and it hit us, we became twitterpated just in time for spring. From their we were living in a dream world every thing was new and exciting and I never wanted it to end. That's what we do we spend are whole life looking for someone who can make us happy and we can spend the rest of our lives happy with that person. This is how we felt, every day discovering something new about each other. We caught the twitterpated bug so bad that then on Easter we packed our car, only together for 3 weeks and drove all the way out West to start our Happily Ever After. We were so in love and focused on each other and our new dream we decided to just run and not tell anyone. We actually told our roommates we were going to do laundry.
This is how it starts, we find ourselves crazily ever after. We find ourselves doing things we would never do, feeling things we have never felt and before we know it we are long gone down the Twitterpated road. I don't see this as a bad thing, these are the feeling we need to remember and hold onto in our times of struggle. Remembering that Love brought you together, and Life will always try and split you up, life happens, without are love we have nothing. This is one of the special bonds each couples holds. Their is always a beginning to a love story and its always begins with two people becoming Twitterpated.
Tune in Tomorrow for.......... More Disney Effect, we start to look at some of the top 5 relationship problems.
Monday 30 January 2012
Ladies night In
"Ok Ladies I am going to take my turn and host a party, This one is gonna be a Fun & Fashionable one" "A what" "A party were you can buy purses, wallets, winter ware, jewellery, and hair accessories."
I had never been so excited to host something. I knew a good group of ladies to invite to my partee, and I knew a great lady (sister in law) who had just started a new business venture called Fun & Fashionable. It was the perfect order girls night, and we didn't even have to go out. We got to stay in, we had wine, snacks, money and nothing but time to shop. We got to browse through all of what Fun & Fashionable had to offer, we got to sip on our wine and snack on our snacks and enjoy plenty of conversation with all our closest and best ladies. We had an amazing night, not only because the product to was to die for, but the prices were really really right, and you know what happens when you mix good product and right prices, well you get alot of worried husbands....lol...But its ok, we did good. We all found some wonderful treasures to take home. My girls also came over and got to pick out one thing. They were amazed at all the wonderful things and of course tried to purchase more than 1, I had to let them down, because it was my turn to get more than 1 :) . I would just like to thank all my ladies for coming on out and I want to thank My sister for spending the time to set up and unset up all your wonderful product. Last but not least Thank you to my wonderful husband for looking the other way when I came home with, a purse, headband, necklace, winter hat, cell phone gloves, 2 set of winter hats and scarfs for the girls, a special pick necklace for Ella, and a special pick scarf for Allison. I will try to look the other way when you bring home another something with a motor!!!
This is the Brat, sleeping on my new purse and hat. what a Cat!
I had never been so excited to host something. I knew a good group of ladies to invite to my partee, and I knew a great lady (sister in law) who had just started a new business venture called Fun & Fashionable. It was the perfect order girls night, and we didn't even have to go out. We got to stay in, we had wine, snacks, money and nothing but time to shop. We got to browse through all of what Fun & Fashionable had to offer, we got to sip on our wine and snack on our snacks and enjoy plenty of conversation with all our closest and best ladies. We had an amazing night, not only because the product to was to die for, but the prices were really really right, and you know what happens when you mix good product and right prices, well you get alot of worried husbands....lol...But its ok, we did good. We all found some wonderful treasures to take home. My girls also came over and got to pick out one thing. They were amazed at all the wonderful things and of course tried to purchase more than 1, I had to let them down, because it was my turn to get more than 1 :) . I would just like to thank all my ladies for coming on out and I want to thank My sister for spending the time to set up and unset up all your wonderful product. Last but not least Thank you to my wonderful husband for looking the other way when I came home with, a purse, headband, necklace, winter hat, cell phone gloves, 2 set of winter hats and scarfs for the girls, a special pick necklace for Ella, and a special pick scarf for Allison. I will try to look the other way when you bring home another something with a motor!!!
Alli with her scarf
Thursday 19 January 2012
Bell Phone for a Day
"I'm sorry, but there is just nothing we can do for you!"
I have never been so excited about a phone, I have only owed 3 phones in my whole life. A Rogers Roots phone back in 2003, a Solo Mobile samsung 10-4 phone in 2007 and a Solo Mobile Samsung Entro in 2010. I decided to go with the Bell TV phone. I had a lot of people say to me, OMG do not go with Bell your crazy. I thought to myself no its OK. I ordered that Bell phone and waited 6 days for them to ship it to me. When It arrived here, the corner of the box was squished up, the lady said,
"Oh its fine, they bubble wrap the crap out of those things".....I should never had taken the package, and I soon learned why. It was not wrapped in bubble wrap but a brown tissue paper that looked like it came from the washroom.I was so excited I opened up my new phone and get ready to turn it on. Once I did I noticed a black line running though the middle of my screen, Right away I called Bell. I was transfered over to like 5 different people all at the end to find out that I had to send the phone back were I got it from(in the mail) and then wait till February 3 before I get my phone back. I could hardly handle a week without it, I can't go that long. They offered me a different choice, I could send it back and tell them to cancel out the account, and then once its cancelled I can go to a Bell store and make a new order, then I don't have to wait and I don't have to rely on Canada post to send me yet another damaged phone. I spend all day on the phone trying to find all my options, one said I can't cancel the 4 others said yes I can I haven't use the phone yet. One said you can get a loner phone 3 said no I can't, 2 said I could get a new phone ordered today, the supervise said No Way (spending cap)!!! 6 told me I could not get any kind of credit for the hassle they caused me, I got transfered to 5 wrong departments and I think in total all day long I gave my Name Number and Email address like 37 times. I even swore at one guy and he called me out on it and made me feel really dumb. But In the end the only option I have is to then send this phone back and cancel my services.
With all this bull crap, I decided to call KOODO, WOW what service they said they could get me the right phone, right contract and I can come down and pick it up and they will have me ready and working by 8pm. They even can take my original number from solo that I have had for 6 years, Bell was going to give me a new number.Now my day has been pretty stressed so far you think I could not handle one more thing. Well its was 7pm and we have 45 min to drive there, and we still need enough time to call the activation centre before 8. Well I still don't have a cell phone, The keys were missing and it took us 45 min to find them, I of course put them in a place I never do so we missed our chance to get me a phone. I was really hoping that tonight we could go down to pick it up but with this white stuff falling in from the sky it might not be a good night for travelling the roads.
Like I always say, This stuff always happens to me, and I am always happy to share it...I really think someone out there doesn't want me to have a cell phone........please think long and hard before switching to Bell!!
I have never been so excited about a phone, I have only owed 3 phones in my whole life. A Rogers Roots phone back in 2003, a Solo Mobile samsung 10-4 phone in 2007 and a Solo Mobile Samsung Entro in 2010. I decided to go with the Bell TV phone. I had a lot of people say to me, OMG do not go with Bell your crazy. I thought to myself no its OK. I ordered that Bell phone and waited 6 days for them to ship it to me. When It arrived here, the corner of the box was squished up, the lady said,
"Oh its fine, they bubble wrap the crap out of those things".....I should never had taken the package, and I soon learned why. It was not wrapped in bubble wrap but a brown tissue paper that looked like it came from the washroom.I was so excited I opened up my new phone and get ready to turn it on. Once I did I noticed a black line running though the middle of my screen, Right away I called Bell. I was transfered over to like 5 different people all at the end to find out that I had to send the phone back were I got it from(in the mail) and then wait till February 3 before I get my phone back. I could hardly handle a week without it, I can't go that long. They offered me a different choice, I could send it back and tell them to cancel out the account, and then once its cancelled I can go to a Bell store and make a new order, then I don't have to wait and I don't have to rely on Canada post to send me yet another damaged phone. I spend all day on the phone trying to find all my options, one said I can't cancel the 4 others said yes I can I haven't use the phone yet. One said you can get a loner phone 3 said no I can't, 2 said I could get a new phone ordered today, the supervise said No Way (spending cap)!!! 6 told me I could not get any kind of credit for the hassle they caused me, I got transfered to 5 wrong departments and I think in total all day long I gave my Name Number and Email address like 37 times. I even swore at one guy and he called me out on it and made me feel really dumb. But In the end the only option I have is to then send this phone back and cancel my services.
With all this bull crap, I decided to call KOODO, WOW what service they said they could get me the right phone, right contract and I can come down and pick it up and they will have me ready and working by 8pm. They even can take my original number from solo that I have had for 6 years, Bell was going to give me a new number.Now my day has been pretty stressed so far you think I could not handle one more thing. Well its was 7pm and we have 45 min to drive there, and we still need enough time to call the activation centre before 8. Well I still don't have a cell phone, The keys were missing and it took us 45 min to find them, I of course put them in a place I never do so we missed our chance to get me a phone. I was really hoping that tonight we could go down to pick it up but with this white stuff falling in from the sky it might not be a good night for travelling the roads.
Like I always say, This stuff always happens to me, and I am always happy to share it...I really think someone out there doesn't want me to have a cell phone........please think long and hard before switching to Bell!!
Tuesday 17 January 2012
A Rant on Today's Ways
"Whats your problem today?" says the Kobo guy.
"Well I purchased this book,and its not in my Library. When I try to purchase it again it says "You have already purchased this book, If it is missing from your library call customer care" so I am calling you, how do I recover my book back please?"
You would think that my politeness and very straight forward question would receive me a speedy fix. Well I talked and laughed and continued to remain polite with the customer care and he was more than polite with me, no issues, just my problem got sent onto the next tier team and they would solve it up as soon as they could. this was Thursday. I then waited for the Friday and the Saturday and nothing in my e-mail yet. Sunday night they send me an e-mail saying, take a second look at this book, the book I am trying to repurchase or re find to recover. I think its my book and I get to download it (this book is in a series I am reading) Nope its not, its just a promotional thing saying you searched this book more than once, wanna buy it, oh wait you can't you have already purchased this book and if its missing from your library contact customer care. So I call customer care, and I truly believe in my heart that these poor people have the suckiest job in the world and that If I remain calm, I will make their day better. I remained calm, and explained it to the girl and gave her the info about the promotion email and I still cant get it, she says
"Hold in there it is being worked on on the Teir 2 level they will have a solution soon." so I tell her thank-you, and she comments on how she hopes all her calls today are from someone as understanding and nice as me, wow Thanks for the compiment but still not missing e book. I thought whatever I am already waiting for a cell phone, why not the second book in my series.
Monday, they yet again send me another promotional e-mail with my book on it. I am getting really upset, its hard enough to wait, and now they are throwing it in my face, haha here is the book you need, and haha you can't buy it. Then I think I am the smartest person in the world, I am going to click the send this book as a gift button and send it to myself. I did this only to discover that once they email me the book it says, you have already purchased this book but you can exchange your book for store credit. I take a few breaths remind myself the guy on the other end of this phone is going to be hearing this for the first time, just stay calm walk him through it. So I call walk him through my problem and give the inccident #, so he has the info right infront of him,I told him how I sent it to myself as a gift. We laugh we talk we got figured out what the problem was. He says how sorry Kobo was and that they would be delivering that book into my library for all the trouble I have gone through with this missing book issue.
Tuesday, they yet agian send me another promotional e-mail with my book on it. The book has not been delivered to my library, I should know seeing as I have been checking it all last night and all morning. This is where I guess my breaking point must be, I could not handle that this all has happend and still they send me this stupid promotional e-mail and still not have solved my problem. I really didn't care about the person that was coming into the phone, this was my angry phone call:
"Whats your problem today?" says the Kobo guy.
"Well I purchased this F**king book,and its not in my Library. When I try to purchase the stupid thing again it F**king says "You have already purchased this book, If it is missing from your library call customer care" so I am calling you to resolve this problem,I have already taked to your people 4 F**king times how do I recover my book back please?"
As I write this out I am even more embaressed then I was when I had to say it.
I then took a breath and gave him the inccident #. From there he says ok miss are you on the kobo page?...yes I am...go to "my library"...ok there...is the book there...No...Ok look in purchased (these are all titles above your book in your library)....ok there......is the book there...No....Ok look in the trash button...ok there and OMG the book is here...good, click the book and then hit the undelete button....awsome the book is now in my library....Is there anything eles I can help you with today miss.
What I said next I think socked him, I said "Yes you can offer me forgiveness for cursing at you at the begining of this coversation, but you should keep in mind that I feel more embarassment for you than I do for me, I called you guys 4 times and 3 of those times were with respect and understanding, it was not unitl I called with authority the last time that you offered assistance on an issue that took less than 1 min to solve. I am sorry for the way I treated you, Have a good day. He gave me forgiveness and agreed that most of time they pass off polite customers who are still impressed with their service. They pay more attention to the ones who might give up on their product.
I used to be a person that called for everything and gave over authority to anyone on the phone, I stopped doing that thinking to myself its not worth get worked up over you can achieve that same thing while being polite. Thank you society for once again showing me how backwards we veiw the world today. I have been proven wrong in a bad way, and I just pray that struck home with my Kobo guy and he starts to turn it around, I just pray that one person reads this blog and choose to help everyone in the same way. Life should not be about picking and choosing who gets help and who gets nothing, God sure did not give us life so we could become the judge.
Thank you Kobo guy for all your help, I am greatful to have the book, but shamefull of what I had to do to get it :(
Life lesson learned, I will still call people and be nice, I will just make sure to tell them in a nice tone, "If my issue is not resolved in 24 hours I will be withdrawing my services, Thank you"
Stayed tuned for.............. my first Book Review of 2012 "Clockwork Prince"
"Well I purchased this book,and its not in my Library. When I try to purchase it again it says "You have already purchased this book, If it is missing from your library call customer care" so I am calling you, how do I recover my book back please?"
You would think that my politeness and very straight forward question would receive me a speedy fix. Well I talked and laughed and continued to remain polite with the customer care and he was more than polite with me, no issues, just my problem got sent onto the next tier team and they would solve it up as soon as they could. this was Thursday. I then waited for the Friday and the Saturday and nothing in my e-mail yet. Sunday night they send me an e-mail saying, take a second look at this book, the book I am trying to repurchase or re find to recover. I think its my book and I get to download it (this book is in a series I am reading) Nope its not, its just a promotional thing saying you searched this book more than once, wanna buy it, oh wait you can't you have already purchased this book and if its missing from your library contact customer care. So I call customer care, and I truly believe in my heart that these poor people have the suckiest job in the world and that If I remain calm, I will make their day better. I remained calm, and explained it to the girl and gave her the info about the promotion email and I still cant get it, she says
"Hold in there it is being worked on on the Teir 2 level they will have a solution soon." so I tell her thank-you, and she comments on how she hopes all her calls today are from someone as understanding and nice as me, wow Thanks for the compiment but still not missing e book. I thought whatever I am already waiting for a cell phone, why not the second book in my series.
Monday, they yet again send me another promotional e-mail with my book on it. I am getting really upset, its hard enough to wait, and now they are throwing it in my face, haha here is the book you need, and haha you can't buy it. Then I think I am the smartest person in the world, I am going to click the send this book as a gift button and send it to myself. I did this only to discover that once they email me the book it says, you have already purchased this book but you can exchange your book for store credit. I take a few breaths remind myself the guy on the other end of this phone is going to be hearing this for the first time, just stay calm walk him through it. So I call walk him through my problem and give the inccident #, so he has the info right infront of him,I told him how I sent it to myself as a gift. We laugh we talk we got figured out what the problem was. He says how sorry Kobo was and that they would be delivering that book into my library for all the trouble I have gone through with this missing book issue.
Tuesday, they yet agian send me another promotional e-mail with my book on it. The book has not been delivered to my library, I should know seeing as I have been checking it all last night and all morning. This is where I guess my breaking point must be, I could not handle that this all has happend and still they send me this stupid promotional e-mail and still not have solved my problem. I really didn't care about the person that was coming into the phone, this was my angry phone call:
"Whats your problem today?" says the Kobo guy.
"Well I purchased this F**king book,and its not in my Library. When I try to purchase the stupid thing again it F**king says "You have already purchased this book, If it is missing from your library call customer care" so I am calling you to resolve this problem,I have already taked to your people 4 F**king times how do I recover my book back please?"
As I write this out I am even more embaressed then I was when I had to say it.
I then took a breath and gave him the inccident #. From there he says ok miss are you on the kobo page?...yes I am...go to "my library"...ok there...is the book there...No...Ok look in purchased (these are all titles above your book in your library)....ok there......is the book there...No....Ok look in the trash button...ok there and OMG the book is here...good, click the book and then hit the undelete button....awsome the book is now in my library....Is there anything eles I can help you with today miss.
What I said next I think socked him, I said "Yes you can offer me forgiveness for cursing at you at the begining of this coversation, but you should keep in mind that I feel more embarassment for you than I do for me, I called you guys 4 times and 3 of those times were with respect and understanding, it was not unitl I called with authority the last time that you offered assistance on an issue that took less than 1 min to solve. I am sorry for the way I treated you, Have a good day. He gave me forgiveness and agreed that most of time they pass off polite customers who are still impressed with their service. They pay more attention to the ones who might give up on their product.
I used to be a person that called for everything and gave over authority to anyone on the phone, I stopped doing that thinking to myself its not worth get worked up over you can achieve that same thing while being polite. Thank you society for once again showing me how backwards we veiw the world today. I have been proven wrong in a bad way, and I just pray that struck home with my Kobo guy and he starts to turn it around, I just pray that one person reads this blog and choose to help everyone in the same way. Life should not be about picking and choosing who gets help and who gets nothing, God sure did not give us life so we could become the judge.
Thank you Kobo guy for all your help, I am greatful to have the book, but shamefull of what I had to do to get it :(
Life lesson learned, I will still call people and be nice, I will just make sure to tell them in a nice tone, "If my issue is not resolved in 24 hours I will be withdrawing my services, Thank you"
Stayed tuned for.............. my first Book Review of 2012 "Clockwork Prince"
Monday 16 January 2012
Dependant on a cell phone
"So that's going to be 5-10 business days" replies the Bell guy.
"Oh I will be fine, I am not that reliant on my cell phone"
When I said this I truly believed that this was true, I didn't think I spent that much time on the thing. I thought oh yeah people like to text me but It should be fine to be out of order for a few days. It was my mistake for dropping my phone in water anyways I figured waiting was my punishment for being so careless with my cell. I never realised how much I use that phone from day to day.
Day 1 without phone:
This day started at 5 o`clock in the morning when to my surprise I got an early morning phone call, It was my first daycare mom, not looking at the time just hearing the phone ring I thought, "oh one of the kids must of woke up sick.` WRONG, she was calling from my front porch waiting outside in the cold with 2 kids wondering why they were locked out. Never let your husband have control over the alarm clock. I have not used that alarm clock in over a year, my wonderful cell phone has been doing that job.
Day 2:
Had to announced on Facebook that my phone was out of order, had quit a few messages from people wondering why I was suck a snob and not answering them back. I had to make sure my Daycare Moms knew all about my phone down, We have developed a bad habit of communication through text messages.
Day 3:
This is the day I finally broke down and said, I need a new phone. You see the darn thing was freezing and the battery would not charge right before it went into the water, so I made that call to order my new phone. Because I have to be the pickiest person in the world, I really wanted a phone that I knew I would enjoy for a least 2 years. I decided on the Samsung Galaxy 551, perfect fit for what I need. The only thing is when they said how long it would take I really thought I could do the waiting.
Day 4:
First day of waiting for the new phone. I knew it was not going to be there, but I secretly wished I was a VIP customer and they would have it here. Of course they didn't and my poor house phone has not had so much action in a long time. It rang off the hook all day long with people who usually just send a text.
Day 5:
Crap its a Saturday, can't count today as one of the business days. Oh well we have plans to see Beauty & the Beast in 3D that will keep my mind off the cell phone missing. WRONG again, its amazing how much your body and mind just want to check your cell phone for the time while waiting in a movie theatre, but then again that could also be partly because in the dark all you see is like 100 faces lit up with the glow from 100 cell phones.
Day 6:
Sunday not counted as a business day. Here is were I start to feel lonely. I feel out of touch with everyone. It hits me I have no clue were anyone is or what anyone is doing today, I haven`t heard from all my girlfriends whats up and whats new, I don`t even know half of their home phone numbers, or even their cell numbers they are just a name on my phone or a Face on my Facebook.But that is how it is now, Cell phone, Facebook, e-mail, then finally we think to call the house. Some people are even cancelling home phones giving up that bill, seeing as the Blackberry goes off more that the home phone. This is the day I admit to myself that I can`t go without a cell phone :(
Day 7: Is today
I woke up early with the sad realisation that I will miss my husbands cute little message he leaves me throughout the day, because its only day 2 of my business days and still no sign of the phone. I feel like every time I fill up my purse to leave the house that I have forgotten something like my arm or my head. My purse is lighter now though. I find myself no longer reaching for it when I hear a ring that is not even from my cell phone. I have no clue if my friends are even still alive due to not hearing from them over the week. I have slept in countless times trying to reteach my sleeping morning self how to use the alarm clock, I really miss my husband- now its been a whole half day with no communication, and I can`t handle not having my music or a camera on hand at all times....
That's when It all turned around.....I received a text to my land line from my husband saying `Hugs and kisses-xoxoxo` That's the moment that I realised good things come to those who wait. I felt like a school girl all over again getting a not from a boy who has checked of the `Yes`square. I had come so used to his messages through text even I forgot their is other ways in the world, his messages were just something I expected to happen everyday, and thought I couldn`t get without a cell phone, let me tell you something nothing can make you more smiley then when your husband goes out of his way to make your day a little better. especially when you think it will not happen, an experience that I never would of had if not living a week without my cell phone. :)
"Oh I will be fine, I am not that reliant on my cell phone"
When I said this I truly believed that this was true, I didn't think I spent that much time on the thing. I thought oh yeah people like to text me but It should be fine to be out of order for a few days. It was my mistake for dropping my phone in water anyways I figured waiting was my punishment for being so careless with my cell. I never realised how much I use that phone from day to day.
Day 1 without phone:
This day started at 5 o`clock in the morning when to my surprise I got an early morning phone call, It was my first daycare mom, not looking at the time just hearing the phone ring I thought, "oh one of the kids must of woke up sick.` WRONG, she was calling from my front porch waiting outside in the cold with 2 kids wondering why they were locked out. Never let your husband have control over the alarm clock. I have not used that alarm clock in over a year, my wonderful cell phone has been doing that job.
Day 2:
Had to announced on Facebook that my phone was out of order, had quit a few messages from people wondering why I was suck a snob and not answering them back. I had to make sure my Daycare Moms knew all about my phone down, We have developed a bad habit of communication through text messages.
Day 3:
This is the day I finally broke down and said, I need a new phone. You see the darn thing was freezing and the battery would not charge right before it went into the water, so I made that call to order my new phone. Because I have to be the pickiest person in the world, I really wanted a phone that I knew I would enjoy for a least 2 years. I decided on the Samsung Galaxy 551, perfect fit for what I need. The only thing is when they said how long it would take I really thought I could do the waiting.
Day 4:
First day of waiting for the new phone. I knew it was not going to be there, but I secretly wished I was a VIP customer and they would have it here. Of course they didn't and my poor house phone has not had so much action in a long time. It rang off the hook all day long with people who usually just send a text.
Day 5:
Crap its a Saturday, can't count today as one of the business days. Oh well we have plans to see Beauty & the Beast in 3D that will keep my mind off the cell phone missing. WRONG again, its amazing how much your body and mind just want to check your cell phone for the time while waiting in a movie theatre, but then again that could also be partly because in the dark all you see is like 100 faces lit up with the glow from 100 cell phones.
Day 6:
Sunday not counted as a business day. Here is were I start to feel lonely. I feel out of touch with everyone. It hits me I have no clue were anyone is or what anyone is doing today, I haven`t heard from all my girlfriends whats up and whats new, I don`t even know half of their home phone numbers, or even their cell numbers they are just a name on my phone or a Face on my Facebook.But that is how it is now, Cell phone, Facebook, e-mail, then finally we think to call the house. Some people are even cancelling home phones giving up that bill, seeing as the Blackberry goes off more that the home phone. This is the day I admit to myself that I can`t go without a cell phone :(
Day 7: Is today
I woke up early with the sad realisation that I will miss my husbands cute little message he leaves me throughout the day, because its only day 2 of my business days and still no sign of the phone. I feel like every time I fill up my purse to leave the house that I have forgotten something like my arm or my head. My purse is lighter now though. I find myself no longer reaching for it when I hear a ring that is not even from my cell phone. I have no clue if my friends are even still alive due to not hearing from them over the week. I have slept in countless times trying to reteach my sleeping morning self how to use the alarm clock, I really miss my husband- now its been a whole half day with no communication, and I can`t handle not having my music or a camera on hand at all times....
That's when It all turned around.....I received a text to my land line from my husband saying `Hugs and kisses-xoxoxo` That's the moment that I realised good things come to those who wait. I felt like a school girl all over again getting a not from a boy who has checked of the `Yes`square. I had come so used to his messages through text even I forgot their is other ways in the world, his messages were just something I expected to happen everyday, and thought I couldn`t get without a cell phone, let me tell you something nothing can make you more smiley then when your husband goes out of his way to make your day a little better. especially when you think it will not happen, an experience that I never would of had if not living a week without my cell phone. :)
Thursday 5 January 2012
Tick-Tock...."How Does She Do It"
"There are never enough hours in a day" ~Every Mother In The World~
"How does she do it?" ~Every person watching a Mother~
We have all heard this said before time and time again, I think every Mother in the world would agree that there never seems to be enough time in the day. Look were we are now the clock has tick-tock us along life so fast I think News Years has blown on in and delivered us 2012. The last movie I saw in 2011 was "How Does She Do It" with Sarah Jessica Parker..It focuses on Sarah's Character as a hard working mother of 2 trying to break her big deal in the business world and run a family at home with kids and sports, with bake sales, and of course giving her husband some time...rent it sometime its a good watch.
This movie got me thinking about that very question, how do mothers-whether they be working or stay at home- pull off being Mommy, Wife, Daughter, Sister, Employee, Friend and still manage to be ourselves? Of course you have to remember these are just what we are, each one comes with its own list of job duties. Have you ever wondered how they do it all? I have spent the good part of this new year trying to pay attention in my day to day activities to find my answer to this question.....Funny thing just yesterday I had a girlfriend say this very phrase to me yesterday on Facebook.
My answer to this question is double everything, I try to always be doing 2 things at the same time while thinking about the next step. Yes its multi-tasking, we all do it, and its the answer to our busy lives. We all have our titles we just need to double them all together, I am in need of a girls night for some friend time, and I have a sister in law starting a new house party venture...combine them together and host a party at my home for my sister and invite all my ladies :) ... Mom's Birthday coming up, use craft time to make fun loving home made cards. Your Husband wants to go out with the boys, send him on errand before he goes out. Kids want to go out for supper, have them help with groceries after supper out. Girlfriend wants to stop by for coffee, send the kids out to Friends to go sledding. Have a drink with a friend while helping her hem her curtains. Have 5 Christmas in one day, spread the present on a hunt over all the places you have to visit.
We are always trying to make a busy life fit into a short time span, then leaving people wondering how we do it once we have pulled it off. We all know how busy it can be, we always hear Moms talk about how busy life is and how much they need to do, but here is the secret you don't hear, you find your me time...your little shot of happiness during your day to day activities, its in a smile from a st anger, its in the thanks from a friend you just helped, its from a kiss from your husband, a long conversation on the phone with your mom, its in the small moments in the day that your kids give you a hug just for doing all that you do. All these things fill us full, we might not get a moment to go to the bathroom and take a shower, but we have thousand of moments in a day with the people we care about, and isn't that all that matters, they are the ones we do it all for.
The question is there enough time in the day?...Yes, you just have to learn to multi-task while seeing the blessings in your life at the same time.
How do we do it?.....you just learn to mulit-task while seeing the blessings in your life at the same time.
Make sure to thanks a Mother today :) they work harder then what you see!!
So raise you glasses high and give a cheers to all the mothers out there, who News Years Revolution or not will still organising and multi-tasking through the year!
"How does she do it?" ~Every person watching a Mother~
We have all heard this said before time and time again, I think every Mother in the world would agree that there never seems to be enough time in the day. Look were we are now the clock has tick-tock us along life so fast I think News Years has blown on in and delivered us 2012. The last movie I saw in 2011 was "How Does She Do It" with Sarah Jessica Parker..It focuses on Sarah's Character as a hard working mother of 2 trying to break her big deal in the business world and run a family at home with kids and sports, with bake sales, and of course giving her husband some time...rent it sometime its a good watch.
This movie got me thinking about that very question, how do mothers-whether they be working or stay at home- pull off being Mommy, Wife, Daughter, Sister, Employee, Friend and still manage to be ourselves? Of course you have to remember these are just what we are, each one comes with its own list of job duties. Have you ever wondered how they do it all? I have spent the good part of this new year trying to pay attention in my day to day activities to find my answer to this question.....Funny thing just yesterday I had a girlfriend say this very phrase to me yesterday on Facebook.
My answer to this question is double everything, I try to always be doing 2 things at the same time while thinking about the next step. Yes its multi-tasking, we all do it, and its the answer to our busy lives. We all have our titles we just need to double them all together, I am in need of a girls night for some friend time, and I have a sister in law starting a new house party venture...combine them together and host a party at my home for my sister and invite all my ladies :) ... Mom's Birthday coming up, use craft time to make fun loving home made cards. Your Husband wants to go out with the boys, send him on errand before he goes out. Kids want to go out for supper, have them help with groceries after supper out. Girlfriend wants to stop by for coffee, send the kids out to Friends to go sledding. Have a drink with a friend while helping her hem her curtains. Have 5 Christmas in one day, spread the present on a hunt over all the places you have to visit.
We are always trying to make a busy life fit into a short time span, then leaving people wondering how we do it once we have pulled it off. We all know how busy it can be, we always hear Moms talk about how busy life is and how much they need to do, but here is the secret you don't hear, you find your me time...your little shot of happiness during your day to day activities, its in a smile from a st anger, its in the thanks from a friend you just helped, its from a kiss from your husband, a long conversation on the phone with your mom, its in the small moments in the day that your kids give you a hug just for doing all that you do. All these things fill us full, we might not get a moment to go to the bathroom and take a shower, but we have thousand of moments in a day with the people we care about, and isn't that all that matters, they are the ones we do it all for.
The question is there enough time in the day?...Yes, you just have to learn to multi-task while seeing the blessings in your life at the same time.
How do we do it?.....you just learn to mulit-task while seeing the blessings in your life at the same time.
Make sure to thanks a Mother today :) they work harder then what you see!!
So raise you glasses high and give a cheers to all the mothers out there, who News Years Revolution or not will still organising and multi-tasking through the year!
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